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Frequently Asked Questions About GAAMC,
Pride Guide and Gay Life in New Jersey

  1. What is GAAMC’s Web address?

  2. When and where does GAAMC meet?

  3. How can I contact GAAMC?

  4. How can I become a member of GAAMC? What are the costs and benefits of membership?

  5. Is there an online discussion group (email list, listserv, community bulletin board) for GAAMC? How can I join?

  6. When was GAAMC established?

  7. When and where does the GAAMC board meet?

  8. Why the name Gay Activist Alliance in Morris County?

  9. Who is welcome at GAAMC? What do the initials GLBTI mean?

  10. Are contributions to GAAMC tax-deductible?

  11. What programs are coming up at GAAMC?

  12. How can I volunteer with GAAMC?

  13. How can I get an ad in Pride Guide? How much will it cost?

  14. Why am I having trouble navigating Pride Guide Online?

  15. How can I get a copy of the Pride Guide?

  16. What is the Challenge newsletter? How can I contact the editors?

  17. I’m moving to a new home, or have already moved. How can I notify GAAMC to make sure I keep receiving Challenge and other correspondence?

  18. When and where are the “New Jersey Pride Celebrations”?

  19. When and where are other Pride Celebrations in the United States (outside New Jersey)?

  20. How can I find out about social groups, and groups based on my interests, that meet in my area?

  21. Where can I find information on a welcoming church, synagogue, temple, meeting place, or other spiritual or religious haven in New Jersey?

  22. How does the State of New Jersey protect sexual minorities (GLBT people)?

  23. I have questions about legal issues or believe I have been a victim of discrimination. Where can I find help?

  24. I may be interested in counseling or therapy. Can you recommend a gay (or gay-friendly) therapist (counselor, psychiatrist, psychologist, “shrink,” etc.)?

  25. What is the difference between a “rap group” and therapy?

  26. How can I find a gay (or gay-friendly) doctor or health-care provider? 

  27. What is the size of the “gay population” of New Jersey?

  28. What is the New Jersey Anti-Violence Project? How can I report an incident of bias crime or domestic violence?

  29. How can I contact my legislators in New Jersey?

  30. How can I register to vote in New Jersey?

  31. I’m a student, educator or parent interested in resources for GLBTI or questioning youth. Where can I find out more information?

  32. What is the Gay Helpline of New Jersey? When can I call? Do I need to register or identify myself when I call?  

  33. I have a hearing or speech disability that makes it difficult or impossible to call GAAMC or another helpline/service/business via regular voice dialing. Is there a service that can help?

  34. What is the status of relationship equality ("gay marriage") in New Jersey?

  35. Where can I find information on the legal status of gay marriage around the world, and information on vows for gay marriages or same-sex commitment ceremonies?

  36. I am in the market for a job, or want to consider doing business with a “gay-friendly company.” How can I find companies that are gay-friendly or offer domestic-partner benefits?

  37. Is there a group for parents, families or friends of people who have “come out”?

  38. I am a gay (GLBTI) parent or prospective parent. Is there a support group for me in New Jersey?

  39. Where can I find a list of “gay media” and news about gay issues?

  40. Where can I find information on “gay symbols” (such as the rainbow flag, lambda, gender identity, etc.)?

  41. Where can I find information and local testing sites for AIDS/HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases?


What is GAAMC’s Web address?

http://gaamc.org

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When and where does GAAMC meet?

Please read An Overview of GAAMC (2005).

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How can I contact GAAMC?

Please visit GAAMC’s contact page.  

For immediate general information, please call the Pride Center of New Jersey in North Brunswick at 732-846-2232. Hours: Sunday through Friday evenings 7-10. Also: Tuesdays, noon to 4 p.m., and Thursdays, 2 to 5 p.m.

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How can I become a member of GAAMC? What are the costs and benefits of membership?

Membership information and an application are online. The PDF document requires Adobe Acrobat Reader. Also, membership brochures are available at all Monday night meetings. Or request a membership brochure be mailed to you.

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Is there an online discussion group (email list, listserv, community bulletin board) for GAAMC? How can I join?

A listserv on Yahoo! Groups provides a forum for GAAMC members and non-members to exchange ideas and make announcements pertinent to our community. Visit the site to join. Members must follow the listserv rules and agree to the site’s terms of service. On the GAAMC Calendar, listserv members are encouraged to post public events of interest to the community. The calendar offers the option of emailing reminders of the event to the listserv.

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When was GAAMC established?

GAAMC was founded in 1972 by four people: Jenny Glaab, Jeff Samuels, Mickey Suiter and John Sheehy III, all of whom were between the ages of 18 and 21. The first meeting of the Gay Activist Alliance of Morris County was held Sept. 11, 1972, in the Morristown Unitarian Fellowship, the group’s present and continuous home. In 1973, the name was changed to Gay Activist Alliance in Morris County to reflect the breadth of membership. Co-founder John Sheehy III died April 11, 2002, at age 51.

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When and where does the GAAMC board meet?

The GAAMC board meets the third Thursday of each month in the dining room at Morristown Unitarian Fellowship. Meetings, open to all GAAMC members, start at 7 p.m. and typically last about two hours.

For questions about specific meeting times and agendas, please email the GAAMC president.

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Why the name Gay Activist Alliance in Morris County?

Please read an explanatory article by John Nakovich.

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Who is welcome at GAAMC? What do the initials GLBTI mean?

Everyone is welcome at GAAMC events. Members, attendees, friends, family and allies are warmly welcomed. GAAMC’s facilities are partially wheelchair-accessible. Sign language interpreters for the hearing-impaired are available upon request.

GAAMC’s constituency is the community of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Intersexed people. Sometimes the initials Q (Queer or Questioning) or TS / 2S (Two-Spirited) are also used. (In the Native American tradition, gay and lesbian people are referred to as haing two spirits, both masculine and feminine, and they were treated with great respect.)
A summary of these and other terms was published Sept. 28, 2002, in The Topeka (Kansas) Capital-Journal.

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Are contributions to GAAMC tax-deductible?

GAAMC is a 501(c)3 non-profit corporation. A portion of membership fees, and additional monetary gifts, are tax-deductible as a donation. Please note: In accordance with Internal Revenue Service regulations, door donations are not tax-deductible.

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What programs are coming up at GAAMC?

Please visit the GAAMC Program information page.

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How can I volunteer with GAAMC?

Please visit the GAAMC Web site for more information.

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How can I get an ad in Pride Guide? How much will it cost?

Please contact us.

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Why am I having trouble navigating Pride Guide Online?

Pride Guide Online is fully compatible with Internet Explorer (IE) versions 5.00 and newer. If you are using an older version of IE, Netscape, or another browser, you may experience problems with certain pages, such as the graphical home page. As an alternative, you may use the text-only version of the home page.

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How can I get a copy of the Pride Guide?

Printed copies of the Guide are available at GAAMC’s offices during regular Monday night meetings, and at the Pride Center of New Jersey (North Brunswick) and other businesses and organizations that have requested them. Also, the Guides are distributed at Pride celebrations and other events throughout the year. To have a copy mailed to you, please contact us.

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What is the Challenge newsletter? How can I contact the editors?

Challenge, published since 1975, is a bimonthly newsletter mailed to GAAMC members. Challenge presents information on current events and issues at GAAMC and elsewhere. Contact the editors.

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I’m moving to a new home, or have already moved. How can I notify GAAMC to make sure I keep receiving Challenge and other correspondence?

Please send your updated information as soon as possible to changeaddress@gaamc.org. Please include your old and new addresses, and if applicable, your other contact information such as phone number and email address.

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When and where are the “New Jersey Pride Celebrations”?

  • Jersey City Lesbian and Gay Outreach, Inc. produces a celebration on the Jersey City Waterfront in August. The group’s seventh annual event will be held Saturday, Aug. 25, 2007.

  • Trenton's Capital Rainbowfest. The fifth annual event happened Sunday, Sept. 17, 2006, in Trenton’s Mill Hill Park.

  • Jersey Pride Inc. produces the annual LGBTI Pride Celebration the first weekend in June in Asbury Park. The 16th annual celebration was held Sunday, June 3, 2007.

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When and where are other Pride Celebrations in the United States (outside New Jersey)?

Please visit PlanetOut’s Pride Celebration Calendar.

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How can I find out about social groups, and groups based on my interests, that meet in my area?

Please visit the Pride Guide Online Organizations page.

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Where can I find information on a welcoming church, synagogue, temple, meeting place, or other spiritual or religious haven in New Jersey?

The Personal Liberty Fund of the New Jersey Lesbian and Gay Coalition distributes a Religious/Spiritual Directory, distributed since early 2002. The directory is online.

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How does the State of New Jersey protect sexual minorities (GLBT people)?

The New Jersey Law Against Discrimination (LAD) makes it unlawful to subject people to differential treatment based on race, creed, color, national origin, nationality, ancestry, age, sex (including pregnancy), familial status, marital status, affectional or sexual orientation, atypical hereditary cellular or blood trait, genetic information, liability for military service, and mental or physical disability, including perceived disability and AIDS and HIV status.

Download a
fact sheet in PDF format on “Sexual Orientation & Discrimination” issued by the New Jersey Division on Civil Rights.

For an overview of New Jersey law on sexual orientation, please visit Lambda Legal.

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I have questions about legal issues or believe I have been a victim of discrimination. Where can I find help?

GAAMC does not handle legal issues. 

If you believe you have been discriminated against in housing, employment, financial matters (mortgages, banking, etc.) or public accommodation, you should get in touch with the New Jersey Division on Civil Rights. You may not need a private attorney. Call your local office and make an appointment to file a complaint.

Also, lists of gay and gay-friendly lawyers are included in these resources:

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I may be interested in counseling or therapy. Can you recommend a gay (or gay-friendly) therapist (counselor, psychiatrist, psychologist, “shrink,” etc.)?

GAAMC does not make referrals to mental health professionals. Such professionals are listed in these resources:

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What is the difference between a “rap group” and therapy?

“Rap groups” are discussions among peers, and are held at GAAMC, the Pride Center of New Jersey and other locations. Sometimes the discussions are structured, sometimes not. In “therapy,” a patient/client usually works with a mental health professional, sometimes individually, sometimes in a group.

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How can I find a gay (or gay-friendly) doctor or health-care provider?

GAAMC does not make referrals to such professionals, but does provide lists of available providers.

Health-care professionals are listed in several categories in the Pride Guide Online Directory, including Mental Health/Therapists and Physical Health and Fitness.  

Other sources include:

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What is the size of the “gay population” of New Jersey?

It is impossible to pinpoint the gay population of any particular area. However, the U.S. Census Bureau has surveyed the number of households with “same-sex unmarried partners” in both 2000 and 1990. The Census Bureau on Aug. 6, 2002, released “Summary File 3,” listing 18,228 New Jersey households containing same-sex unmarried partners

Of those households, 8,858 were couples of two men, and 9,370 were couples of two women. More detailed reports on New Jersey same-sex households are available by County or Place (municipality or locality).

Also, see the Census’ Technical Note on Same-Sex Unmarried Partner Data From the 1990 and 2000 Censuses.

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What is the New Jersey Anti-Violence Project (NJ-AVP)? How can I report an incident of bias crime or domestic violence?

For information on the NJ-AVP, please visit GAAMC’s Services Page.

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How can I contact my legislators in New Jersey?

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How can I register to vote in New Jersey?

Visit the New Jersey Division of Elections site.

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I’m a student, educator or parent interested in resources for GLBTI or questioning youth. Where can I find out more information?

The Personal Liberty Fund of the New Jersey Lesbian and Gay Coalition in November 2002 published the New Jersey Educators’ Resource Guide for Serving Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth. In April 2003, the guide was updated and placed online. The guide has been widely distributed to New Jersey schools.

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What is the Gay Helpline of New Jersey? When can I call? Do I need to register or identify myself when I call?

Gay Helpline of New Jersey is a volunteer-operated service that provides the GLBTI community with a comprehensive information source as well as peer counseling and support. Callers to the Helpline, at 973-285-1595, may leave a message at any time to be returned on Sunday or Monday evening. Callers should make sure to leave a complete message, including name, area code and phone number, and reason for calling. The Helpline is a service of GAAMC, and callers do not need to register.


I have a hearing or speech disability that makes it difficult or impossible to call GAAMC or another helpline/service/business via regular voice dialing. Is there a service that can help?

Yes. The Telecommunications Relay Service, also known as TRS, is a convenient link to telephone system users who are deaf, hard of hearing or speech-disabled. Persons using a standard voice telephone can be linked with the TRS user, through the use of a text telephone (TTY), computer, personal digital assistant, Web-capable telephone or a pager device. A Communications Assistant relays the conversation between the TRS user and the standard voice telephone user. The TRS can be reached throughout the United States by phone at 711 or online. Additional information is available on the Web sites for Verizon, AT&T and other telephone service providers.

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What is the status of relationship equality ("gay marriage") in New Jersey?

As of Feb. 19, 2007, New Jersey has a "separate but equal" system of civil union, where same-sex couples in civil unions should be afforded all the same New Jersey rights as heterosexual married couples. However, this ideal has not been met.

On July 10, 2004, the New Jersey Domestic Partnership Law took effect, granting same-sex couples some of the same financial and legal benefits as married couples. Those couples who joined in a domestic partnership before the civil unions law took effect, will remain domestic partners unless they join into a civil union or the partnership is dissolved. 

Pride Guide Online does not maintain current information on civil unions. For current information, we recommend the sites maintained by Stephen Hyland and Garden State Equality. For historical information please see the PGO page, New Jersey Domestic Partnership: Facts and Figures.

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Where can I find information on the legal status of gay marriage around the world, and information on vows for gay marriages or same-sex commitment ceremonies?

The Partners Task Force for Gay & Lesbian Couples is a Web resource for same-sex couples, supporting the diverse community of committed gay and lesbian partners through a variety of media. The site’s Vows page lists sample ceremonies that may be used to solemnize the relationships between life partners.

In the United States, Massachusetts is the only state that allows same-sex couples to marry. 

Four other jurisdictions briefly, during February through April 2004, allowed gay and lesbian couples to marry. They ceased their actions because of legal challenges at the state level:

  • The City of Asbury Park, New Jersey. Louis Navarrete, 42, and Ric Best, 44, of Asbury Park, were the first same-sex couple to be married in the city. Deputy Mayor Jim Bruno married the couple March 8, 2004.

    The City Council agreed March 10 to discontinue issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples, after being challenged by New Jersey Attorney General Peter C. Harvey.
     

  • Multnomah County, Oregon, including the City of Portland, issued marriage licenses to same-sex couples from March 3 through April 20, 2004. Mary Li, 40, and Becky Kennedy, 42, of Portland, were the first same-sex couple married March 3 by retired Oregon Supreme Court Justice Betty Roberts. For more information on the Oregon issue, visit Basic Rights Oregon and The Oregonian.

  • The Village of New Paltz, New York. Billiam van Roestenberg, 38, and Jeffrey McGowan, 39, of Plattekill, N.Y., were the first gay couple married Feb. 27, 2004, by Mayor Jason West. Mayor West married 25 same-sex couples that day.

    On March 2, Ulster County District Attorney Donald Williams said he charged Mayor West with 19 counts of solemnizing marriages without a license, a domestic relations law misdemeanor, Reuters News reported.
     

  • The City and County of San Francisco, California. Lesbian activists Phyllis Lyon, 79, and Del Martin, 83, on Feb. 12, 2004, were married by Mayor Gavin Newsom, the first same-sex couple married in San Francisco. As of Feb. 24, 2004, more than 3,200 same-sex couples had been married in the city.

    As of March 11, the California Supreme Court ordered the city to discontinue issuance of same-sex marriage licenses.

Also check out Pride Guide Online’s Resources (Links) and News on Same-Sex Marriage and Domestic Partnership. (Note: The News section is currently not being updated.)

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I am in the market for a job, or want to consider doing business with a “gay-friendly company.” How can I find companies that are gay-friendly or offer domestic-partner benefits?

The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) produces the Corporate Equality Index, rating U.S. companies on their equitable treatment of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender employees and consumers.

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Is there a group for parents, families or friends of people who have “come out”?

Yes. Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (P-FLAG) works on support, education and advocacy issues. Information on New Jersey chapters can be found online.

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I am a gay (GLBTI) parent or prospective parent. Is there a support group for me in New Jersey?

Yes. Lambda Families of New Jersey offers information and support for GLBT parents and those wishing to become parents in New Jersey.

Also, the online community Families Like Ours provides adoptive and pre-adoptive families with a centralized resource for information and support.

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Where can I find a list of “gay media” and news about gay issues?

Pride Guide Online maintains lists of:

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Where can I find information on “gay symbols” (such as the rainbow flag, lambda, gender identity, etc.)?

Information and examples of gay symbols are found on the Matt & Andrej Koymasky Home site. You can also find information on gay symbols by using a search engine such as Google.

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Where can I find information and local testing sites for AIDS/HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases?

Check out Pride Guide Online’s HIV / AIDS Support & Services area of our Directory. The page includes resources to find New Jersey testing sites, and links to information on AIDS/HIV from the U.S. government and from the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey.

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— Compiled by Eric Schwarz, with contributions from Sue Harris, David C. Morris and Ted Poggi.
Page revised February 21, 2008 11:43 PM -0500

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